Hello I hope you can advise. I’ve had shared parenting of my 2 year old son since earlier this year. However over the past few weeks my son refuses to change back into his handover clothes and literally cries. When asking him don’t you want to go - he says no. Yesterday I asked once again and I asked generally why don’t you want to go? Does someone do something? He nodded and I pointed to his arm? He said no and he pointed to his cheek. I took this as a ‘slap’. Later in I asked again as he refused to leave. I thought I was just getting worried over nothing. However as soon as he saw his Mother through the car window he said ‘Mummy no’ and started to cry. He used ti be happy to see her before. Luckily he dropped his toy car on the car floor to distract him before handover. He sometimes naps in the car, although he didn’t this time. His Mother abruptly said that he always does this and that it’s nursery tomorrow (Monday). I said he wasn’t asleep but we were trying to find his car. This worried me more. I left with my son staring back. I’m actually worried quite a lot.
Any advice or am I jumping to conclusions? It’s been building up and doesn’t seem like an isolated incident.
That sounds awful. Have you tried speaking to his nursery and see if he has said anything to them at all or if he acts scared when his mum picks him up, assuming she does pick him up? I would imagine as he is only 2, he might struggle to communicate exactly whats upsetting him.
Thanks. He goes to Nursery on the
days he is with his Mother. I’ve not approached them but it has crossed my mind. I’m in a predicament as I don’t want to be seen as the trouble-causing ex. I did say to him in the simplest of ways to let [omit name] know at the nursery (one of the nursery assistants he seems to know by name).
my eldest is 5, she mentioned to me that *mums new boyfriend smacks her bum and she doesnt like it, I was straight on the phone to the school to inform them and ask them to contact me if she mentions it in school. i informed SS who didnt care, and cafcass just said call SS?
sorry to hear thats been going on. i think social service will only start taking this seriously if there are physical bruising and marks on your child. ask the nursery to keep an eye on your child. naturally they will be biased towards the mother.