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First Xmas without my children... 3 months 1 week ago #103084

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Hi guys.. This will be my first Xmas without my children.. I go to the town, I move through the crowds of people, I see all the children, of my childrens ages, laughing and holding their Dad's hands. And I sink. I sink, so low. Today was horrendous. I felt like I was walking in treacle. My children will awake on Xmas day, open their presents and will be asking mummy for me to be there. But she won't. My children are missing me. I am missing my children. This pain is killing me. Its now been 6 long, arduous months of having absolutely no contact with them. How can she keep this up? How can she just completly discard me like I'm nothing. Left me homeless and broken.. I will struggle on, for my end goal, to see my children again.. I've been to war, I've seen conflict. But this is My biggest BATTLE I've got to win. Only this time I'm alone, no platoon of men with me, encouraging me, helping me, I'm just alone... Trying. Trying every minute of the day to be strong, and ignore the pain. I MISS MY CHILDREN!!!

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First Xmas without my children... 3 months 1 week ago #103086

Hello Devo,

The pain of missing your children is indescribable. Only those who have suffered the loss can understand.

The Christmas period is an especially bad time for me for similar reasons as yours. I feel numb, living with memories whilst all the time hearing on the radio, television and in the streets all this merriment which they seem to think is a time everyone enjoys and is happy, how wrong they are.

People such as us feel terrible at this time of year but we must remember to look after ourselves because it will pass. Importantly for you in January which is not far off now, you will be going back to court with a number of things in your favour so please stay strong.

We have no option but to suffer what I believe is temporary pain and from what I know of you, in my opinion, it will not be too long before you see your children again.

Stay strong, January is a very important month for you.
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First Xmas without my children... 3 months 1 week ago #103087

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Thank you, Motherofafather.

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First Xmas without my children... 3 months 1 week ago #103094

Hello Devo,

Yes, as you see and may know you are not the only one but man, be strong. It is the same for me, first Christmas without my only son I have, he is only 3 years old.

I can just tell you to be and stay strong, not just for you but for your children: won't you like to look to them once you'll see them, happy, tidy, beautiful and full of energies? The first step at the moment is to react, and think about you, yourself and look after yourself!

Meanwhile you will do nice things for yourself don't leave things how they are but apply as soon as you can for mediation, and after that, if mediaiton won't work, go straight to court. It can be expensive but if you want and you feel that you can manage it, you can represent yourserf to court and you'll pay just the application fees.

Again, please, love yourself, respect yourself and stand up for your and your children rights; trust me, a court act can make dads a little bit happier!

Don't give up! Fight your battles intelligently!
Remember that the more you wait for acting the more it will shows that you have been happy with the actual situation.

Sorry for my English, it is not my native language ;-) again, be strong and react and think about next year Christmas which you'll pass with your children!
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First Xmas without my children... 3 months 1 week ago #103096

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hi devo,

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First Xmas without my children... 3 months 6 days ago #103116

Hi, I am in similar situation, haven't seen my 10 years old son for 3.5 months. Accused of lots of false accusations.
I have been through a lot in my life but this is different and I don't know if I am going to survive. Have no family no friends, people who knew us as a family, avoiding me, I am being treated guilty before proven innocent. But only me and my son know how much we love each other, for that I will fight and will survive. One day soon the truth will come out and these dark days will pass. We must stay strong.

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First Xmas without my children... 3 months 6 days ago #103123

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Hi mori. I know.. I'm going through the same thing at the moment. My wife made allegations against me, that had me arrested and bailed... In the interim she took out a non molestation order against me with a occupation order. That left me homeless... I've not seen my 4 children in nearly 7 months. Its just an horrendous nightmare. One day she's cuddlling me, telling me I'm a good husband and dad, and the family rock, 2, days later I'm arrested for allegations she made.. This is the hardest thing I've ever done... So here I am on Xmas eve, in a room with a sink. Missing my children, as they are missing me.. Just remember keep it going, keep fighting, cause our children need us more than they know....

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First Xmas without my children... 3 months 6 days ago #103128

Hi, Happy Christmas

Same here. I am having the darkest and most difficult time of my life. Sitting on my own helpless. I literally don't have anyone even to talk to. The damage is done and more to come but all I can say these dark days will pass.
I am sorry I wish I could be more helpful. We may not see our children now but all will change, they need us and we need them. Stay strong and hopeful.
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