Every now and then my ex puts make up on my daughter, since she was 3 years old (at least to my knowledge). And when I say make up, I don't mean just a bit of blusher, I mean the whole works. My daughter is now 7. My ex recently bought her a little box of make up. A little while back she had make up on, and then was constantly re-applying it. Honestly, it horrified me. The way she was applying it and then checking herself in the mirror throughout the day was like she was 27 not 7. With this, and whenever I see her in make up, my heart breaks a bit. I see an innocent child being rushed into adulthood.
With the make up kit and in general, I never know what to do. If I say no, I feel like it is only going to make her want to do it more when she get's back to her mum's. I having tried telling her 'you're beautiful just the way you are', but she just says 'I know, Daddy, but I like putting make up on' or something to that effect. I am against make up on children for various reasons, but what do I do? What would you do? Do I ban it from my house? Surely that will make her just want to spend more time with her mum. The thing is, this is just the start of it. I know my ex, and I know a similar thing is going to happen down the line when it comes to alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, and believe me when I say it...sex. My ex is like no one you have ever met and she lives in a completely different world. And with those things, it's going to be the same - if I say 'no', she is just going to go to her mum's where she will be allowed drink, smoke, have promiscuous sex, etc. That might sound far-fetched. But my ex promotes those things.
So what would you do? With the make up, initially. But if you have any ideas of how to prepare for those other things when they come, that would be appreciated too!
unfortunately you cant control what your daughter gets up to whilst in her mothers care. I imagine she has her a vast majority of the time.
All you can do is like all us dads would probably do is to find something else for you and your daughter to do which don't involve make up. she is only 7 and if you don't want your daughter applying make up then you are entitled to put a stop to it. I imagine at 7 she make kick up a fuss for a short while , but after will be fine. At that age they need to be doing things kids do , you do sound right like mum wants her to grow up into an adult too quickly. about drinking and smoking and whatever else all you can do when the time comes is educate her the rights and wrongs