Congratulations to you and your partner on your impending arrival! I hope all goes well for you and the mum to be.
Here's a few suggestions for you:
*Join an antenatal group with your partner. You can make new friends who are in the same situation as yourself. Dads attend and are encouraged to chat as much as the mums to be!
*Don't be afraid to see your GP if you are beginning to feel really overwhelmed. They will be able to pin point you to a support group either online or local to you for first time parents and hopefully maybe one just for dads.
*Make time for each other where you are not baby focused, so do an activity together that you both really enjoy.
*Speak with trusted friends who already have children, and ask them to put your mind at rest about issues that maybe worrying you. It's ok to ask for help.
*If you are able nearer the time, plan ahead. e.g. have you friends that could make you meals for a week or so after the birth? Use what family and friendship networks you have. Don't be afraid to ask for help.
*Try not to read too many books about raising babies, accept that you will make mistakes along the way, and just take it day by day. For my partner and I just learning as we went along and discovering new baby things together was the best thing for us.
Obviously we are all different, so don't be afraid to tell your partner when you are having an off day - we all have them! - and be kind to yourself.
Let us know how you get on, once you see your babies first smile, it will make you smile too.
Kind Regards, Fegans Parent Support Volunteer