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Step Dads Do Matter

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Deanb

In today’s society, families take on many different forms, meaning that the role of the father figure also varies from family to family. Yet one thing remains clear, this role is crucially important regardless of the individual structure of the family

There are many step families in the UK, (an estimated 544,000 in 2011) and one in three people are in some way part of a step family – whether it be a step-parent, step-child, adult step-child, step-sibling or step-grandparent.

When a relationship ends, any children tend to stay living with their mum, which means that in around 80% of step-families, the structure is of a natural mother, her offspring and a step dad. That means there are a lot of step dads out there, who are also trying to navigate their way through step dadding!

Evidence has always shown us how important the role of the father is in the lives of their children. Although there has not been as much evidence specifically on step dads collected as yet, what does exist clearly demonstrates that Step Dads do matter, and do have an impact on their step children too. Specifically:

  • Step dads have a powerful impact on children’s self-esteem (Dunn et al, 2004)
  • Early step dad involvement has a significant impact on decreasing emotional behaviour problems among girls in the adolescent age group (Flouri, 2005)
  • The relationship between a Step Dad and their Step Child is more influential than the relationship between a non-resident biological father-child relationship, in children’s adjustment. The longer the relationship between Step Dad and child, the stronger that influence grows. (Hetherington, 1993)

So if you are a Step Dad, be assured that although your role might not always seem straight forward, easy or clear – it is important, and it is worth working on – for the harmony of your family, your relationship with your partner, and crucially the well-being of your children and step children.

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