I use to love Mother’s Day, spending time with my boys, treating their Mother to lunch, and giving my almost ex-wife an indulgent day. Now I am a divorced, non-resident parent with an ex who I feel is being awkward and non-communicative over every aspect of life. So, Mother’s Day…
What do I do?
I want my boys to treat their mum to cards and get some special present or make something for her. On another hand, if I am honest – I resent spending the little money I have on the woman who at times can make it awkward for me to see my boys more.
Full disclosure – I don’t know what I will do this Sunday. Part of me wants to take the moral high ground and make sure the boys do something nice and have a nice present, because their love and opinions of their mother should never be affected by me. I want to support them and allow them to grow into young men who have respect for the ladies in their life.
I want to show my ex that no matter how hurtful her actions are (in my view), I am a better man and will try and always respect her as the mother of my children.
Mother’s Day is a day for my children to help show their love and respect for their mother – and it is my job as a father to put my own feelings on one side and help make it happen.
I know I will begrudge every precious penny I spend, and whatever we buy not be appreciated as much as I would like it to be – but my love for my children is greater than the pain and inconvenience that I may experience from it.
What we are going to do I haven’t yet decided. Maybe I take the boys shopping, I can get a book she likes or a CD – or I could let the boys decide…