What really changes when you become a parent? Everything does, instantly. So says Peter Howarth, former editor of Esquire and Arena magazines and father of three sons.

When you’re about to become a father for the first time, other men who’ve already blazed that trail are keen to share their experiences. You get those who tell you it’s the best thing that’s ever happened to them, and those who talk knowledgeably of sleep patterns and bottle-feeding.

And then there are those who give you that knowing look – a peculiar expression somewhere between smug resignation and pity – which seems to say “Woah, mate, you don’t know what you’re letting yourself in for.”

I was subjected to all this, but in retrospect only one person hit the nail on the head. A colleague said he’d been told the truth about fatherhood and he was now going to impart this profound piece of wisdom to me, like the handing on of a flaming torch. “It changes everything. Instantly,” he said simply.

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  • Lerato Walter Qaba
    Lerato Walter Qaba Thursday, 03 March 2016


    I have a son I support him as much as I can but his mother refuse everytime I want to see my son

  • DAD.info Team 1
    DAD.info Team 1 Wednesday, 08 June 2016

    Dear Lerato - thank you for your comment above. It would be lovely if you could please update us with regards to your situation and let us know whether things have improved.

    If they haven't you may find the Family Rights Group website helpful:


    You may find it helpful if you post your question on our forum - the link is below:


    This is a great way for our community of Dads to share their experiences and for our experienced moderators to be able to help you.

    All the best

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