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Hi,
Recently my son (in full time education at college) has moved back with his mum and she's put in a claim for Child Maintenance. She's tried this before but I was originally main carer and then we went 50/50 so it was refused. She's also come after me several times in the past for money following the divorce and financial separation until I eventually got a court order putting an end to it. This is early stage of the CMS claim but the payments are potentially massive as I'm a high earner (which is also why I never bothered to claim Child Benefit).
Son is suffering with his mental health which I believe is due to her giving him unlimited access to the internet (I've always limited what they are exposed to and what apps, social media etc they have access to when they are with me). He's left at home alone, even overnight and has stopped all contact with me, which is really really unusual, although he is still in contact with other family members and I believe he is at least fit and well physically.
I don't want to stop him and my other child from seeing her as I don't want to be spiteful and don't want to cause them harm or make them have to choose.
I don't have any contact with her and don't want to have either.
Can anyone advise what I need to get to prove she isn't at home overnight and therefore not a resident parent? Do I have to involve Social Services/Police for welfare checks or would photographic/video or Private Investigator proof suffice for CMS? I would rather avoid this if possible as I don't want to traumatize him.
Thanks in advance
Hi,
if she is now classed as main carer, as she gets child benefit, you will have very difficult time proving she does not stay overnight with him.
I recommend you join this support group for paying parents:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/239699060076601/?ref=share
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