Can anybody suggest a communication app which we can use to pass information between me and mum. We are currently using a communication book but unfortunately this keeps going missing and pages are removed.
Also I fully expect my suggestion to fall on deaf ears but we are back in court in a few weeks. Is it likely a judge would order the use of the app in order to improve or actually encourage communication.
Thanks
I have always taken pictures of what is written in the communication book. I am not sure if there any specific apps for this, but maybe Whatsapp as it shows when messages have been received and also read? Communication can also be backed up to the cloud if needed.
Best app to use to speak to an ex is WhatsApp or email. In family court its best to agree to any form of communication and come across how important it is to co parent. If she is using it to be nasty just say so she knows and can hear you in front of magistrates that any communication should be child focused and not to be used to undermine other parent otherwise it wont be effective
Hi,
We used to have the same problem where my partners ex would rip out pages etc. Although the courts put the communication book in place we found it didn't work so great. So on return to court we actually found a website that was like an organisational calendar communication tool for families and put this forward in court but court dismissed our idea and instructed the parents to open dedicated email addresses for communication.
So the best option may be opening a new email address dedicated for communication so it's easy to find threads and it's not mixed with other personal information etc.
Unfortunately in our case the ex still seems to WhatsApp but we ignore those and only communicate via emails especially as it's in the court order for parents to use email communication.
I think the courts also prefer email over WhatsApp as emails are harder to be manipulated such as an email randomly being deleted whereas WhatsApp they can send a message and then delete for all and you're left with no evidence unless you screenshot everything which the courts don't seem to be interested in.
So based on our experience of communication and courts I'd suggest creating a new email address for communication suggesting this to your ex but if they don't open a new email address send it to their current email address and present the email communication idea in court.
Good luck
I found that you can be as prescriptive as you want in court orders, a vindictive ex will find a way to frustrate and work around it. Once you establish that the attitude is just not there, let go and either fight it off to the end or cut your losses and accept the status quo.
when i was in court recently, cafcass recommended we both use some family wizard app. we have to pay an annual subscription lol. i said no thanks. we play pass the parcel. whatsapp messages going through her brothers phone.
contact book is useless for any short term/urgent arrangements.
i regularly backup the messages for evidence, in case they delete stuff.