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I was domestically abused by my wife for over 11 years with her controlling me, to the point that I ended up in hospital for emotional mental health issues, while there she has been lying to my children telling them I am psychotic and sending me razor blades with clothes in to hospital. All has been reported to the police but no one is interested, she’s still abusing me by using the children but no one is interested in helping as I am a man, there is so much support available to women it’s not fair 🙁
hi,
am sorry to hear what your going through. are you still living together? what is happening with child arrangements?
@dadmod2 we are not living together and the boys no don’t want to see or talk to me die to what we she is saying, Also like a lot of Mutial friend and pushed out of the football In coach as well.
@alan75 ok. how old are the kids if you don't mind me asking? if you think it's possible to rebuild relationship with your kids, you may want to consider taking legal route. if you need advice feel free to get in touch. sending you private message.
Thanks Alan75. It sounds as though you could do with some extra support.
Abuse is never excusable.
It is good that you are reaching out and looking for the help you deserve. I thought I'd just leave a note here about some other charities that specifically support male survivors of Domestic Abuse. Hoping there might be some information you haven't seen before.
- Mankind initiative -ManKind Initiative - Supporting Male Victims of Domestic Abuse or call 0808 800 1170 (that is a freephone number and won't show up on your bill) (Mon-Fri 10am-4pm)
- Respect - Men's advice line - 0808 8010327 or a chat service here - Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men | Men's Advice Line UK
- At Spurgeons (the charity that runs dad.info) we also have information about relationships here - Domestic abuse | advice and information
Hoping some of the above is useful. All best, N
Thanks, I have tried the first two and I haven’t really got anywhere.
i keep getting told to seek legal advice, when doing that I was told the boys opinion will be taken into account and if she’s got them to the point of not wanting to see me that they will decide against the contact. So annoying that I have proof of what she has said is lies but no one seems to be willing to help 🙁
@alan75 Really sorry to hear you're not yet getting the support you need. It sounds like you've already tried a few routes without much progress, which must be incredibly frustrating. Do give mankind another go, I have heard really good things about them.
I can also suggest you could look at the charity Coram for some support about your contact arrangements with your children - you can email here - https://childlawadvice.org.uk/clas/email-advice-family/ or they have a call back service (there is a fee) https://childlawadvice.org.uk/clas/booking-a-call-back/
You're not alone, and there are people who want to help.
There might be a local charity near you that supports victims of domestic abuse. You can find out from your local authority or google it
- Samaritans – call 116 123
- Shout – text the word ‘Shout’ to 85258
