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My 16 year old son has been living with me for 3 months now and in this time he has stayed with his mum for 4 nights.
I have 2 children with her and I’ve paid cms reluctantly because she’s a terrible mother and uses the money for herself rather than the kids, she neglects them, goes on holiday and leaves them at home on their own (youngest child is 10) doesn’t pay for any after school activities, refuses to buy them new uniform when they need it so I end up paying for it.
A few months ago my 16 year old who was starting his GCSE’s had enough and asked to come and live with me and my wife which we obviously agreed to. I told CMS and they sent a letter to my ex and she rejected my claim. I rang CMS and told them and they said I’d need to appeal the decision and upload evidence and make a claim for his child benefit and get as much evidence as I can.
we have now changed his doctors to our address, my son has rang HMRC and had his National Insurance number registered to our address and told HMRC that his main address is our address. He’s told his school that he lives with us now and had his address changed to our address.
We uploaded all this evidence and I’ve just received a letter saying she’s rejected our claim as main carer again, it’s so unfair that they are completely disregarding what we are telling even though she is lying.
what do we do now?
hi,
have you contacted HMRC about claiming child benefit?
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