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Split up in Feb, have a 1 year old. Since February I've been having him one night every weekend. Ex is constantly micromanaging me - asking me for photos, proof of bedtimes, quizzing me on every little thing. When he's ill & can't go to nursery, I have time off work to have him so she can still go to work. She constantly changes times and locations for pick up/drop off. Won't let me take him out without her prior permission (refused to let me take him out with my brother and his one year old) whole situation bonkers. Anyway, Two weeks ago, I was still doing a night every weekend. Then I told her that my 5yo from a previous relationship was moving in. Suddenly everything changed. Now, during mediation, she's saying the 1yo isn't safe with me, she will only accept supervised visits so she can show me his routine and teach me how to look after my own son. Problem is, the mediator couldn't get her to compromise either. So now I have to either have lessons from my ex on how to do things I've been doing since he was born, or I just don't get to see him. Supervision by her, in her home. I know all of this is because of the 5yo and the fact I have met someone else. But the new gf is still very new and won't be around either child.
What am I supposed to do if the mediator is agreeing with the ex?
Ex is saying son isn't safe with me, said I don't wash his bottles, don't bath him. Etc. to me, these are NOT safety concerns. No, I don't bath him, I have him one night and she wouldn't let me bath him. And two weeks ago....I was still having him. If he was unsafe, why beg me to take time off work so she can still go to work.
What do I do. I don't want to get into a [censored] for tat scenario, I just want to see my son in my own home. No court involved yet, no previous history of any wrongdoing. She's just making stuff up because she doesn't want me to get the kids to meet without her there - which she already told me.
Do I carry on with mediation? Do I jump through her hoops? Do I just go to a solicitor?
Please advise. Early stages for me but I don't know where to start.
Sorry I prob should've put this is legal. I'm new. Just need help.
*in legal, not is. Nothing legal arranged so far
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