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My 6 yr old shows sadness in school and has cried in playground a few times. My 3 yr old bursts into tears over nothing in his nursery. This is the result of mum walking out 8 wks ago and deciding not to return having having found a younger lover in madrid.
Thing is , school have noticed and being concerned that I, as a man, am not coping decided to 'offer' multi agency support. This includes counselling for my daughter and social service 'support' ie an assessment of my coping skills, my needs and those of my children.
I am worried that this assessment will be intrusive and leads onto social services taking my children from me 'for their own care and welfare'.
I wonder now if I did the right thing in accepting the school's 'support' as though I am somehow incapable cos I am male
and because I am self employed that this, in their eyes, is another word for scrounger or 'economically inactive' which I certainly am not even if my self employment is more and more reliant on tax credits to keep it afloat.
Maybe my children do need help for their sad feelings of loss but does this merit 'multi-agency' support?
WORRIED. 🙁
The fact that the school where you children go have taken notice of your childrens change of behaviour which is due to their mum walking out is good, and they have offered multi agency support is just part of their schools policy which is there to help your children. Look at as a positive, they are there to help your childrens emotional needs and help for you if needed would probably be in the way of repite. Its just they way the childcare system works nowadays. Its nothing to do with your earnings or because your a single dad.
Good luck.
There are a lot of scare stories about childrens services and other services. There first priority is to provide support as much as possible so that children can stay in their own home wherever possible - removing children is always the very last resort. If you allow them to help and work with them, you have absolutely nothing to be worried about.
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