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Hi
Just after some info as starting to get really stressed. Btw I have filled in appropriate forms so awaiting the outcome.
I currently have my 9 yr old twins 6nights out of every 14, in other words my exwife has them one day a week more than me. We share all school holidays. However the divorce was NOT amicable (.her choice, I left her). She has a new partner living with her,who has his 9 yr old boy stay every other w.end.
My ex is on £27 k a yr in her job, don't know about her bf, she also gets tax credits and child benefit. On top of this Im paying £130 per moth maintenance which is not through CSA but what they have calculated .
I earn 15k per yr, surely I am entiltled to at least some of these benefits (some ppl, i.e friends etc have told me the MAIN carer gets them, again she has them ONE day a week more).
Im getting really stressed as really cant afford my bills - my outgoings are FAR more than what my income is. Would like to know any guys on here know if I would be entitled to at least a share of the above benefits. All replies greatly appreciated, many thanks in advance guys!!!!
Hi Welsh
You're right that does not sound fair - I 'm sure one of our "experts" will be able to help you
Have you checked out the Child Maintenance site at the bottom of the page?
Hi welshred and welcome.
I'm afraid that as she has the children for more nights than you, then she is classed as the main carer and she gets all of the benefits. I presume that the maintenance you have calculated takes into account that you have your children for 156 days per year or more, so the maintenance calculation is reduced by 3/7ths, but that is the only concession. The maintenance is based purely on your income, and not on your ex's income, or that of her boyfriend.
Your best chance is to try to reason with your ex and see if you can reduce your payments, effectively you would be going for a family based arrangement, but if she refuses, then I'm afraid you are stuck with the CSA calculation.
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