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Hi, fellow Dads. I have a question about an issue that will come up for many of you eventually as well, namely when maintenance finishes. My son starts advanced education in September and I've been told by the CMS that my payments cease from 2/9. This was only after several letters to them, and my ringing them up to raise the issue. I pay by direct pay method at the middle of the month and was advised that my last payment is in September, then. My query is, if my payments are made in arrears ( are they?), then I would be overpaying by about 2 weeks. They didn't seem bothered by this. Thing is, if I direct pay, I'll never get it back. It might seem a minor quibble but should I just overpay and accept I'll never get it back or just pay half a month's worth? My son disowned me and changed his surname, I believe, and I haven't seen him for years. - nothing to do with abuse; just a bitter divorce, and she remarried years ago anyway.
Thanks, chaps.
... I think, if it were me, I would just make that last payment. If you only pay half, the CMS may come after you for it and I don’t think I’d want to take that chance... To draw a line under it finally would be what’s most important to me.
hi,
i second mojo. just pay it off. CMS can be very incompetent at times. i am having to make 2 months back-dated payments through no fault of my own. simply because CMS took so long to work out how much i have to pay. i cant be bothered to argue with them. its a standard 20 min wait on the phone lol.
If you try to argue it, you will probably lose, and that way your ex knows you have been beaten. Just pay it gracefully and be thankful that's the end of it.
Hi. I'm in exactly the same position and have had the long waits on the phone but still get vague answers from the CMS. I'm just going to let the September payment go through because as mentioned, I don't want the hassle and raised blood pressure that the CMS seem to provoke so easily.
They told me that I should receive a letter soon (if I was a day late with a payment then they would be calling me immediately).
Once you've made the last payment they are out of your hair for good.
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