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Hiya Im wondering if anyone can help me, I have a two year old with my ex and pay her maintenance between us based on a csa calculator. The problem is when i met my ex she already had a little girl who is now 4, i have her at mine aswell as my own daughter.
Am i paying my ex too much money for my child even though i look after two because the 4 year olds dad does'nt want to know!
I currently pay her £260 a month which is fine however when my little girls turning up in her sisters hand me downs and her mums always out and about getting a [censored] job and new clothes i do think am i paying over the odds, espescially because the 4 year old dad pays £100 a month less than me and has no responsibility.
I looked on a CSA calculator and there is no option for if you look after someone elses child aswell as your own the 52-104 circa days a year i have them.
Any help would be appreciated.
Cheers
Matty
You should be paying 15% of your takehome pay, less 1/7th if you have your girl between 52 and 104 days that you say. There is no allowance that I can think of for the fact that you are looking after a girl who isn't yours, though I agree it does sound unfair.
As for what your ex spends the money on, I'm afraid there isn't anything you can do about that - the maintenance is a flat sum regardless of what she spends on the children, but don't forget that part of the maintenance does go to the things you don't see directly, such as providing and running a home, food etc - I know that may be small comfort when you see your daughter in hand-me-downs.
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