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Hello all, new here but trying to get some idea concerning finances.
My ex-wife is moving together with our two children in another EU country and is moving in with someone else.
Since she had denied access to me to visit the children and let them stay overnight I had to file to court for a defined contact order which was issued last week.
Due to the children's age, the Judge ordered five periods of overnight contact throughout the year and for the location of exchange to be convenient to the mother and the children. I am happy about all that. My problem now is finances.
I calculated that in order for me to visit and stay overnight with my children or bring them back home, it will cost me approx. 50.000pounds a year. This is because I am also offered a job in another EU country that I want to accept.
My ex-wife has a Consent Order from Court that will be one year old next February. In this order it states that I am to pay her several hundred pounds a month. As things stand today, I will have to work to pay for the CM and flight costs. Before, or better, together with looking for a second job to be able to face all these commitments, I am looking for a way to get a court arrangement that will help me financially, whether it be an order that travel costs are to be shared or something to that extent or for the CM payments to be reduced.
I want to remind that we are not talking about 100 or 200 pounds a week, either. It is more than enough money so that my ex quited her job and is now living solely out of my CM payments.
Does anyone have any idea or advise where I stand legally in this?
Is there anything that can be done so that not all expenses are paid by me?
Thank you all in advance.
Hi
Once the court order is a year old, you can ask the CSA to take your case and this will supercede the court order. You would be assessed to pay 15% of your takehome pay.
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