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Hi all i'm here to ask 1 question !!
Let's say a DNA test was done via the CSA 14 years a go and the results came back 5 months after the test in the way of 1 letter saying the case had stopped due to said named not been the parent ( no DNA profile from company was received )!!
Fast forward 14 years said child gets in contact and the child's mother is adamant that I'm the child's dad and that she never did a DNA test or had contact with the CSA.
New DNA test = I have missed out on 14 years of their life
What do I do ?
Do you still have the letter from 14 years ago?
What do you want to do? Do you want to be a part of the child's life? Does the child want you in their life? It's a big shock and if you decide to be a Dad to this child you must take on board that it won't be easy, there will be times when you will wonder if you have done the right thing! Teenagers are notoriously hard to handle even for parents that have been in their lives from birth and there may be issues of anger and guilt to deal with....but if you persevere you will so glad you did I'm sure!
There is a very experienced lady called Karen Woodall, she specialises in separated families and it might be worth bearing her in mind...she has written books about your situation and it might help you to understand what you and your child may be going through.
we are talking and she as spent time with me. She is soon to be 20 years old ... have I Been wronged ? And yes i still have the letter !!
I would say you and your daughter have been terribly wronged, perhaps you should both go and get some legal advice about your situation and whether you have any redress....compensation won't give you the lost time back but it's more about recognition for their mistake and the fact that it has affected both of your lives so badly.
Do you think the mother is not telling the truth. It's seems highly unlikely that the CSA would become involved without the information coming from someone, and who else but the mother would benefit from doing it.
I think for your own peace of mind you need to get to the truth....you both need closure on this. Have you contact the CSA and talked to them about it, they should be able to tell you when and who contacted them initially, and if you had a DNA test done that should also be on file.
I added a further paragraph, don't know if you saw it... Let us know how you get on.
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