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:huh: My ex wife has got the CSA involved after years of a voluntary agreement between us. She thought she could get more by going through the CSA- she was wrong. I have always overpaid and she now realises this. By her own admission I have the kids ( two boys 13 and 10) 154 days a year. This is CSA Band 3, as they have told me this, which equates to what I was basically paying her anyway.
In fact the 154 does not include extras like holidays. I am a teacher, so I am fortunate to have the school holidays off. I have the boys a lot more at holiday time. It all adds up CSA band 4. I have asked the CSA to start an application based on Band 4.
I currently have the boys 6 days out of every 14. I want to increase this to 7 out of 14, so there will be no CSA entitlelement to her at all.
She is refusing the 50/50 arrangment in order to trigger a CSA payment of at least Band 4.
There are no court orders or residency agreements etc,etc, just our own informal arrangements which we have had for the last four years.
So my question is this: what rights to I have to stop her, short of going to court?
this really p*sses me off when it becomes more a financial benefit for the mother to prevent equal or better contact with you kids!!! seem that this is all too [censored] common!!!
short answer is......your only chance is court my friend! however as you were getting better than most fathers seem to be...i would guess that the courts will try and have your ex go back to what you had....but your ex seems to be driven by money and thats gonna be difficult as she no doubt will not make it easy for you.
time to try and reason with her.....try writting a letter to her....nothing confrontational just putting down a few feelings and why the kids would be better off sticking to their current routine with regular contact with you........you never know...she may see things your way....hmmm...maybe dont hold your breath though
If the care is a 50/50 split, you still have an obligation to pay maintenance - basically, you will be paying 50% of the full amount, less 7 pounds per week for each child.
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