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Help!!
My payments are about to go up from £330pcm to £436pcm based on the latest tactics of my ex partner to go through the CSA 10 years after having an 'agreement' between ourselves in that time.
My lads live 68 miles away, I collect them every other weekend, so a round trip of 270+ miles. I did appeal to the CSA to take this into consideration, fuel costs, but they only take the sleepover days or the travel costs into consideration. One or the other which is very unfair it seems. An extra £100 a month will have the adverse effect on my my contact because I will have to reduce me seeing them to every 3 weeks.
All this does it set the wheels in motion for the evil ex to go back to the CSA and say my nights per year will fall under the 52 day catergory!
Can't win can I !
Any help would be great thank you
Further conversations have revealed my children have been verbally and physically abused by their mum over the years but they're reluctant to testify against her.
Oh God wahat do I do?
Desperate now
Hi Roberto 🙂
You could try contacting Child Maintenance Options and asking them about claiiming for travel expenses, I'm pretty sure you have been given the wrong advice about it being either, or... Heres the freephone number ~
0800 988 0988 Iines are open 8am - 8pm mon -fri and 9am - 4pm saturday.
As far as your sons being mistreated, if they arn't happy to talk to anyone about it and wish to stay with their mum, then its difficult to advise you on how to go forward. How old are your sons and have they not talked to you about their mistreatment before now?
If you have serious concerns you could telephone the Childrens Services and speak to them about it. How are they at school, are there any problems there, as this can indicate problems at home.
You could try Relate. They help with all the issues surrounding the breakdown of relationships, and can offer counselling for families as a whole, and also children that are having problems. Heres a link to their website ~
www.relate.org.uk
Good luck 🙂
...At 16 and 17 they are of an age where you wouldnt need to go to court, if things got too much for them and they wanted to live with you then it would just be a matter of packing their stuff and moving. As far as the 15yr old is concerned, if the mother insisted he stay with her you coud apply to court for Residence if thats what he wanted. At his age his wishes would carry a lot of weight and the fact that it would be important not to split the boys up would also be an important factor.
Agree 100% with this. There would be no need for them to testify, they simply move - and at that point, you can also apply for the child benefit and also claim against your ex for maintenance.
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