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hi,
Was hoping to get some advice or help. When I split with my ex I was earning a wage and since we seperated, 4 years ago, my career has rocketed and I am now earning double what i was. Unitl very recently I was paying £450 a month but now the CSA are involved it will look like this may get increased to around £700 a month maybe more.
I understand and except that I should pay some money for the upkeep of my daughter, who is 4, but I find it very hard to take that since my relationship ended with my ex i became much more sucsessful and the woman that cheated on me could lay claim to more money.
My ex is now settled with a new relationship, does anything like this ever come in to account?
Thanks in advance for any help!
T
Hi Tim and welcome
You are correct that you will be assessed on your income irrespective of her circumstances. If you think about it from your daughter's perspective, she is getting the benefit of your success, which would be the case if you were still living with your ex, or your daughter is living with you. Your ex's new relationship also has no effect on the amount you pay.
thank you and yes i do understand this but the issue then becomes that my step son and son will not benfit as much as my ex and daughter.
it feels very harsh to see that amount of money going out for a 4 year old when i dont and soon wont be able to spend that amount of money on the children that live with me.
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