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I have had a letter arrive from the CSA saying the ex has applied to them to collect the maintenance now.
My question has to be: Do I really have to use the CSA because “She†has applied or can I continue to pay monthly as I always had reviewing the payment if or when I get a pay increase?
I have been paying 15% of my wages (Take home pay) to my ex since the day I moved out. Now since I took her back to court for her breaking the contact order I fought to get for the last 18months….i believe this is just another way she is trying to wind me up after she was threatened by the courts about breaking the contact order again.
I’ve never missed a payment, and I use the CSA calculator to work out the amount I should pay. I have just this month had a pay increase so have immediately raised the payment to her for this month onwards. All have been by standing order from my bank to hers, so can prove every penny.
I know that if I pay the CSA then my little boy will receive less than I pay her now. And as much as it pains me to pay them just so it p*sses her off when she realises she’ll get less its my sons welfare that really concerns me.
My ex doesn’t work and has married since we split (Dec 2011), she claims (produced a doctors letter at court last year) that she has an illness that basically is pressure by fluid build up on her brain….(always said she had brain issues!)…..therefore I very much doubt she’ll ever work again….and i know she is claiming benefits – she has several “single mum friends†that do not work and claim everything they can so I know she’ll be “draining the systemâ€.
Regards,
Dad-i-d
As far as I know, at present, you have to pay through the CSA, but under the current system everything you pay will get passed on, there are currently no charges for using the system. I would stop the standing order you have and start paying immediately through the CSA - even though you have proof, it's much easier not to have to prove it.
As a matter of interest, are there any circumstances where you can reduce the amount you pay, and does your ex know when you get pay rises? If not, instead of declaring them to the CSA, put the extra you would normally pay when you get an increase into a savings account for your son - that way your ex is shooting herself in the foot by using the CSA, and you can spend the money on your son (or keep it for him until he's older) - that should stop it winding you up as well 🙂
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