[Solved] Ex is lying about mainenance

Hi first why is she saying you have not given her the money ? As from now any money you give YOU MUST do by standing order/ direct debit . you can do a family based agreement where you both agree to an amount, csa is being scrapped in 2014 . If csa get in touch with you you must start paying straight away as its from when the case was opened. you can go on there web site and calculate how much you should be paying. I would pay her the correct amount and only buy what you want to not what she wants

In addition to the above - make sure that the reference on the standing order states child maintenance to cover yourself in future.

My son is in a similar situation. When his child was born he was on ESA. He gave her a cheque for £5 a week (not much I know but all he could afford). When the ESA stopped, he was getting nothing. His ex claimed that he had not paid anything at all but they had not cashed the cheques.

My son has been asking for her bank details since he started work, but they are refusing to give them. We have worked out what he should have paid and have kept that in a bank account until we get details of where to pay it as he won't give a cheque or cash anymore. They have now told their solicitors that they are going to go through CSA to get money.

As has already been said.....make sure from now on everything is done by way of bank to bank transfer.....Standing order set up with the heading "Maintenance" to her account.......this then you can prove you've paid.
the unfortunate thing is that from the day the CSA get involved you have to prove you've been paying or you'll end up paying "arrears"....

no matter how much you protest the CSA will not see you taking £40 out you bank each week to pay her as child support.....you could be taking £40/wk to go out on the p*ss....they will only deal with what you can prove you've paid your ex!

like the previous post...work out what you should have been paying from day one and start putting that in to a separate bank account and use that for when the arrears are worked out....it will soften the impact a little.

i'm not using the CSA and have always paid maintenance straight in to my ex's bank.....but as i understand it they CSA can only take arrears back to the day they were contacted by your ex. and that could be a month or two before they tracked you down!

Thanks for the info people , turns out i was right about my ex going to the csa but like a few people has said on this thread , csa will only start from the day my ex contacted them .. panic over ! 🙂 🙂

Cuddles , thats the exact same situation i was in so tell your son not to worry too much . like i said csa will only start from the day that his ex contacts them , no matter what she says they will not ask for money that shes claiming to be missing from the past .