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Ok , married both working one earns double the other how do you work out whats fair.
we put both wages in the pot then pay all bills incuding food then we split the money left and have equel amount of spending money . we both have one child each part time we use own money to visit child sped on child etc. In some ways it works in others it doesnt. we argue about the fuel in car , the visits to family , his or mine , how do you guys work the money out
....Its a sore point with me too! 🙂
I pay all the bills by DD and he pays for most of the food, holidays eating out ....I'm always skint and he's always got money! It started out that way because he paid the mortgage and I paid the bills, but the house is paid for now so theres a big imbalance going on.
Ak, as you both end up with an equal amount of spends, I wouldnt play about with it....If you worked on the method of putting in an equal percentage of your wages for the bills, say 25% each, how would that work out....as you are on a smaller wage you might be worse off. Try doing some calculations on the percentage method....
as an example -
You on £2000pm @ 25% = £500
Him on £4000pm @ 25% = £1000
That would leave you with £1500 but him with £3000!
I cant think of another way you could work it out. Unless he paid all the bills and you kept all your wages!! Like in the old days!! 😆
Hi Thanks for the input. If I was you I would expect 4 holidays a year and eat out every night !! I think your right ours is best kept the way it is, , mind you NJ I wouldnt mind having 6k coming into the house lol, Id be on a cruise every few months hehe.
I would sit down with your oh and discuss the mortgage is paid and ask him to pay half the bills. Money is such a difficult subject .
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