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I wonder if anyone can help me with this.
I am a divorced father and live in a separate house to my ex-wife. My daughter spends 7 out of 14 nights with me and my new wife and has done for the last 5 years.
I have an agreement (non-CSA) with my ex-wife regarding child support and pay her a fixed amount every month. I have suggested to my ex that this payment should stop as I have the same bills as she does, I have to supply the same amount of food etc etc. I also buy all school uniform, pay pocket money and dont and never have had any cut of the family allowance. Needless to say, the suggestion of no longer paying has gone down like a lead balloon and the ex is now considering going to the CSA as she knows she can get more money off me.
Can anyone explain why I have to be paying the ex anything at all as I have equal share in everything reagrding my daughter - it seems the only reason I have to pay is because the family allowance is paid to my ex-wife and not to me. Could I apply to have the family allowance changed to my name and ask my ex to pay me each month? Thanks
Hi
Is there a residence order of any sort as a result of the divorce, and if so, who has residence?
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