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Hi
I am new to this site and would really appreciate any help as I am pulling my hair out. I have been separated from my daughters mum for 3 years (never married but name on birth certificate) and have an agreement with the ex to pay child support every month which I have always done with no complaints and see my little girl every weekend. I also have her for a total of 5 weeks worth of school holidays which uses up all my annual leave.
Today, the ex has now said that she wants more money, I should pay for all the weeks during the school holidays that neither of us can cover and I should cover all the school holidays. When I explained I cannot do this she starts getting abusive and I get all the normal stuff like I'm a bad dad, part time dad and your daughter will see your for what you are !! She is also considering not giving me her permission to take my daughter out of the country for a holiday....I just feel so helpless as I feel she holds all the cards and I have visitation being stopped hanging over m head all the time.
I cannot afford solicitors etc as I am still paying off our debt since separation whilst she lives the life of luxury.
Thanks Dan
Hi and welcome
You can ask the CSA to take your case in which case under the current system you would have to pay 15% of your takehome pay, less 1/7th of this for each 52 days a year your daughter stays overnight with you. You do not need to pay anything beyond this as this is to cover all expenses. If you are paying more than that, then I would tell your ex that you would like the CSA to handle it and that's all you will be paying - she may decide that she'll accept what you are paying.
Thanks for the advice 🙂
Do you know where I stand on taking her away on holiday as I am confused...some people say I need her written authority and some say I don't to take her out of the country ?
I'm also contacting the CSA tomo
Dan
Hi
You do need permission from your ex to take her out of the country unless you apply for a specific order from the court.
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