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Can anyone advise me, or have you ever gone down this route. My x who l have 1 child by her goes through the csa. It was not an amicable split and l have been hounded by her and her family for the last 5 out of the 6 yrs my child has been born. We see the child sometimes but then the x stops contact this is now the 4th times she has stopped contact and l have not seen my child for over a yr. This is wearing me down so l thought l would make a clean break as it is also not fair on my other 2 children who sees their sibling then does not . I thought of asking my x if she would take a lump sum to cover my child maintainance until the child leaves full time education. This would be done through the solicitors and a signed document. But yesterday l checked with the CSA to be told that even if l do this my x can come back to the CSA anytime to have the case started again. They said to be very careful and make sure everything is watertight. But they even said they have known of cases where the courts have said things only to be overturned. I do not want to take out a loan to put into my childs account for my x to draw on for my child's upkeep only for my x then to go back to the CSA and start claiming again. Can anyone help thanks.
Hi dadto3
It's a mess. There is not enough support IMHO for us fathers. The REAL issue is whether or not the kids are loved, happy and safe. The CSA criteria sucks and does not take any of this into account.
This is a world which is supposed to be based on EQUAL rights. Women can and do earn the same or more than men in many cases and want to be treated equally and fairly in every other aspect of life. BUT when it comes to divorce, they know that they have the upper hand.
If the money really IS needed to bring up the kids, then the CSA is a good option. But the CSA rules do not assess the ex at all and this is the BIG issue and failing of the CSA
You could live with huge debts or no debts - the CSA does not take this into account. So lump sums do not get taken into account either. Totally wrong and totally unfair.
Trouble is, this is the LAW. Whether we agree or not. You have my sympathy - but I am not sure I can help and based on the fact you have no responses, it looks like everyone is paralysed with this ridiculous CSA issue.
I would love to know how you get on.
Best wishes
Matt
Hi dadto3
Apologies, for some reason I missed this post originally. My advice is that under no circumstances should you pay a lump sum - the CSA are correct that she can claim through the CSA in the future, and it is extremely unlikely that any account of the lump sum would be taken.
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