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I split up with my ex over two years ago and we have a four year old son together. I am in another relationship and have been for some time. The care of our son is split between the two of us pretty much evenly, each of us having him 3 and a half days a week. Myself and my current partner provide everything he needs for his stay with us- clothes, toys etc and we don't have any benefits coming in as my ex says that if we were to apply for any it will affect what she gets. I also pay her maintenence every two weeks when i get paid. Admittedly it isnt a great deal at £70 a month (this has been the same since we split up) however because we provide everything for him should I be paying her more? She works pretty much full time and recieves a fairly high wage.
Also In September our son starts school, I have told my ex that we will split the cost of uniform with her and pay for him to have school meals if needed.
My ex has recently demanded that I pay her more money however I was wondering whether or not I had to increase my payments?
Hi there and welcome,
You seem to be acting fairly towards payments to your ex, but I would have a look on the CSA Web Site, search CSA calculator in Google and fill out the info have a pay slip to hand as you'll need your wage details. This will tell you the amount you are liable to pay and you can go from there.
Unfortunately having your child 50% of the time only reduces the amount you pay by 50%.
Hope this helps.
Darren
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