[Solved] paying for child i do not see

hi scott, im new here but ive been dealing with the csa for around 6 years now, child maintanance and child contact are two seperate issues mate, your child from your first marriage/ relationship still needs feeding clothing etc, my ex stopped contact because my maintenance went down but after 9 months and 5 mins in court she got told money and contact are two seperate things, i totally agree though mate the amount we pay is [censored], if you refuse to pay then i think prison is one of the things the csa will say to you!!! they did with me, ive heard stories of nrp houses been seized too, id definatly seek a professionals advice mate, hope all works out for you

Hi there,

I am in the same boat as you.

My ex as of a few months ago has relocated to Kent and have taken my daughter with her and I have not had any contact with her for around 2 years but this make no difference whatsoever - you will still need to maintain your child regardless of what the mother decides to do.

I know this take the pi$$ but as parents we have little or no choice. In regards to seeing your child, the only option you have is to go through the courts which seems to be a bit hit and miss at times. I'm currently going down this route so may be able to bounce some updates across to you along my journey.

Best of luck 🙂

Lloyd

Refusing to pay will just cause you a whole load of trouble...I have often said if maintenance was paid on the condition that contact wasn't denied, (barring safeguarding issues of course) the amount of mothers using it as a weapon would drop considerably!

I also had this problem my ex took away my son when he was two he is now nineteen and the last time I saw him was 17 years ago I have paid csa for all that time and it has only just finished I kept all the csa statements and my wage slips and I have paid nearly 60k for a child I have had no contact with I am just a ordinary working man (work in a garage) and tried everything over the years to keep contact but she was so awkward and the legal bills were crippling that in the end I just gave up and resided myself to paying csa.
The law in this country is so unfair and prejudice towards fathers the csa can drive you insane and at times you just don't know what to do all I can say is keep going and pay the money because if you don't they will get it out of you one way or another and just remember that csa will end one day,hope it all works out for you.

I have often said if maintenance was paid on the condition that contact wasn't denied, (barring safeguarding issues of course) the amount of mothers using it as a weapon would drop considerably!

Agreed!

The law in this country is so unfair and prejudice towards fathers the csa can drive you insane and at times you just don't know what to do all I can say is keep going and pay the money because if you don't they will get it out of you one way or another and just remember that csa will end one day,hope it all works out for you.

The CSA will not end anytime soon and will continue to be a thorn in the side to the recipients of the parent it is being used as a weapon against.

For parents who refuse to contribute toward their child/children I can accept that the CSA is a viable but as above, the plebs who work for the CSA can be incompetent at the best of times.