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Something has to be done to make the system fairer. My husband has been paying 20% for years! His daughter left school three years ago - he has continued to pay 20% as received threats from the ex-wife. His children don't see a penny the eldest has supported herself through uni, the youngest is now on a part time college course just two days a week, has two part time jobs and says he has to buy all his own clothes. The ex wife lives in a house owned by her parents, is a head teacher so earns a good salary drives a lovely new car - we saw the children last week and both looked like poor orphans yet the mother was away on yet another holiday. She leaves the 16 year old on his own regularly so that she can go away with boyfriends which she changes frequently usually after she has fleeced them as she did my husband.
My husband would prefer to give his 16 son money direct but he would only have to hand it over to the ex-hard to believe how people change after a divorce. Once they were in love, had children etc and now it seems she is just intent on destroying everyone who doesn't pay what she demands.
Totally agree my husbands ex wife is a head teacher so earns a good wage, despite his daughter being nearly 22 he is STILL paying 20%. His daughter who is 22 has told us that throughout her three years at uni she has never received any money and his son who is 16 says he has to buy all his own clothes from his two part time jobs. The ex on the other hand lives rent free is a family owned house, drives a brand new car and is forever away on holiday.
So basically she gets to keep all her salary plus £1000 (tax free) per month to herself.
It is just so unfair and unjust.
I don't understand...child maintenance is only payable for children under 16 or 20 if they are in full time non advanced education, that means at least 12 hours a week and doesn't cover Uni as that is classed as advanced education.
Is this maintenance by court order or through the CSA.
If its a court order then your husband can contact the CSA or CMS as its now known, and open a case with them. A court order can be overridden by the CMS after 12 months.
Check out the stickys at the top of this section, there's information about how the CSA calculate payments.
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