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Wanted some advice from other fathers. I have three children with my ex and pay her £130 per week. I take the kids every Tues and Thurs and feed them their dinner then every alternate week I also take them Fri, Sat and Sun and I feed them their tea these days also. This means the weekend I have my kids I feed the kids every night with the exception of two nights. I asked her to feed the children the Tues, Thurs and Fri before I pick them up as this is what I pay her money for and she refused. I also take the children for a weeks holiday every year including her other son who is not mine. I also buy them all the same at Xmas and try to be as decent as possible. I now have a new partner and want to live with her but cannot afford to pay her any money and she does not want me staying for free (understandable). I am self-employed and really can't cope like this much longer but if I tell my ex she will get less she just stops me seeing my children. Please help any advice would be gratefully received.
Hi and welcome to the forum.
A few questions - can you clarify how many nights a year you have your children sleeping over (including holidays) and what percentage of your takehome pay are you paying as maintenance? Is there a contact order in place or is this simply a private arrangement regarding contact and how long has this been continuing?
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