[Solved] Ways to pay child support

Maintenance and contact are two separate issues....she can't use this as a threat to stop contact!

It might help if you explain to her that since 2010 parents are entitled to receive maintenance on top of their benefits, so their benefits won't be affected. This I should imagine is the reason she only wants cash. It's very important that you get proof that you are paying as she could at any point tell the CSA you haven't been paying. There are a number of dads that have come a cropper because of this and ended up with arrears and threats of court action from the CSA.

For the time being I would get a receipt book and write child maintenance for (name of child) received by (her name) and the amount and ask her to sign it before handing the cash over.

Perhaps go onto the gov.uk website and print off the information about benefits not being affected so that she can see it in black and white.

i was paying by cash for afew years then i went self employed and my accountant who charged me 300 quid a pop!!!! said dont pay cash as it could be seen as im paying a worker cash in hand, the same amount every month, so i asked my ex to sign a form id made up to say recieved child money etc, she took the cash in her hand and quickly shut the door in my face, i was shocked beyond belief, then she texted me saying legally she didnt have to sign anything so i replied saying legally im paying through the csa from now on, that was maybe 6 and abit years ago and i bet we've spoken 8 times since, why do ex's want to play games with peoples lives all the time

I agree with nrp11 - go back through the CSA. It used to be the case that child maintenance payments would reduce benefit payments, which may be why she wants cash, but I don't believe that happens now, so there is no reason for her to insist on cash. However, the CSA just gives you that extra protection - she can't really refuse, after all, if she refuses to co-operate with the CSA, there is nothing to enforce you paying maintenance at all (though you would be advised to pay it into a separate account anyway, just so you have it available).

Whatever you do, don't open a joint account - that will definitely not be recognised as child maintenance payments (and if it's your main account, what's to stop her cleaning it out), and likewise an account in your childs name will not be seen as maintenance payments.

Hi its getting worst now I've been in touch with CSA a few times they said they'll need to get in touch with the other parent its been weeks now and still had no confirmation on whats going on and said nothing can be done untill its sorted with other parent .I'm not aloud to have my daughter if I don't give her payments in cash .month or so ago I've been having problems with my employer as he's unable pay anyone until more work comes in I've told the mother about this soon as I knew but she said she's OK about it but until it came to the day of having her she told me I'm not aloud her untill payment is made.

She replied with "Finally getting threw is it?!" No money = no Kacie "

I'm sick and tired of this because I miss her so badly as I'm struggling to keep up with payments in household and I'm giveing her as much as I can afford untill things are sorted out and I'll sort everything out when it gets better but doesn't mean anything to her

Just wish I had something that I can do

Keep that message - if it goes to court they won't take kindly to this. I certainly echo the comments above, go through the CMS and make sure the payments are recorded - cash payments could get you into arrears if she goes to the CMS herself without telling you.

Hi guys to use where definitely right received a letter today infact 3 of them I got one from the csa saying I fall under NIL rate and then opened the next one "wish I didn't "

I'm in arrears of £719 and I'm due to pay £78 pw and Its DEO.i phoned up to tell them I could not afford the payments from the arrears.But th woman on the phone says it cannot be altered its final but told her ill be at risk of losing my home for them to take that much off me but she says there's nothing can done with it so ill have to live with it till arrears is paid.
My disposable income is 45pw and they wanting 78 and with it coming out my wages before I get it is a night mare and ill fall behind on everything.

Dont get me wrong I do want to support my daughter in everyway possible but I cant afford to live.if I quit my job I cant support her and if I carry on working I'll have debt and not be able to support my self

Its stressing me out she hasn't let me see child in months and now this.Shes even asked if I would sign my rights aways is she nuts

Please any advice is appreciated .

I'd make an offer to the CSA in writing as to how you can pay the arrears (I'm afraid you will have to be quite hard on yourself, so no keeping money back from anything that isn't 100% essential), and then go and see you MP as soon as possible (with a copy of your letter) - it may not achieve anything, but there's no harm in trying and the CSA may possibly accept your proposal. I would also ask your MP to raise a complaint about the 2 different assessments.