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I Left my wife about 3 weeks ago now but my concern is that when she wants to go out anywhere my 13 mth son will be left in the hands of her sister.
i am very much against this as her sister is a drug addict and i fear for his safety can i get a restraining order against her.
Are you positive she is a drug addict? Does your wife know that she is a drug addict? Is sis in law receiving treatment? Does she have her own children?
Have you talked with your wife about how you feel with sis in law looking after your son?
I think the first step is to talk to your wife about the concerns you have about her sister being left with your child. It sounds as if she hasnt done this yet, or at least not to your knowledge, its just something you think is likely to happen? So I would get clarification about what babysitting arrangements she has in mind.
All single parents need to get out from time to time so perhaps you can offer to babysit when she needs one. 🙂
If her sister is known to the authorities for her drug abuse then I guess that some kind of injunction could be put in place...this is likely to put further strain on your relationship with your estranged wife though, I would try and sort it out informally first.
Yes the whole family knows part of the marriage breakdown was because of her sister stealing from her disabled mother.
Everytime we talk about this it becomes very heated.
I know that its her sister and wants to help here but my concern is my son being left there. Im wiling to babysit and that is not an issue on weekends its just during the week which is the problem
Perhaps you might like to consider using one o the agencies that help family's going through breakdown and break ups.
You could try Mediation, this is where a trained Mediator would sit with you both and with their guidance talk through all of the issues and he fully reach agreement. There is a charge for this service unless you are I receipt of benefits or on a low wage, in which case you will qualify for Legal Aid. Here's a link - www.nfm.org.uk
You might also like to consider Relate, they can help with advice and counselling during family breakdown, again there are costs involved. Here's a link to their website - www.relate.org.uk
As the whole family are aware of what has happened perhaps they could help during the week, just until things settle down....it has only been 3weeks or so since the split so emotions are still running high.
Best of luck 🙂
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