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Hi,
I’m seeking some advice, whether from people who have been through the same or anyone who may just be able to offer any advice.
My child is 3, mother & I weren’t and aren’t together (we are amicable though) and they are 3-4 hours drive away (>175 miles)
Every other weekend I travel there Friday/Saturday and travel back Sunday.
A typical day is pick up in the morning, spend the day doing various trips/activities out and about, and drop off in the evening. Repeat next day
I stay in various paid accommodation, and don’t have him overnight, nor a base there to have any real downtime/chill time.
We have a great bond (I believe) but it still all feels very ‘child minder’, rather than very ‘dad’
The 2 weeks gaps are unbearable, if I was there more there’s no doubt I’d see him more, weekly.
School starts in the not-too-distant future, as will kids parties, possibly sports/music/other clubs etc on weekends.
I can’t see how it’s possible (for either of us) for him to come to stay with me fortnightly, but i can’t carry on this way forever.
Cutting to the chase;
I am seriously considering relocating to the area where they are.
Of course, my family/friends, social activities, job, entire life really, are all here. He isnt though
It would be a complete fresh start (however no reason I couldn’t do the journey in reverse once a month i guess), and very daunting, but it's fast becoming the only solution.
Has anyone done similar to be closer to their child, has it worked, has it been a disaster?
All thoughts and advice welcome.
Cheers
This may be posted in the wrong place - feel free to move to a better place.
Thanks
hi, I have not personally experienced this but have been helping dads that have child contact issues, with long distance travel to see kids, and they are struggling financially because of it. I would find it very difficult in these situations and I would aim to move closer to kids. can always find work. jobs come and go.
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