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Hi hope someone can give me a little advice as i am new to all this. I am married but been seperated for 3 years and going through a divorce and i have found out that my X is planning to move to Australia with her boyfriend and taking my 16yr son with them, as yet she has not told me and being very sneaky. looks to me she is just going to pack up and go. Please could anyone advice me what steps i should take as this is realy stressing me out.
thank you
Hi , i would ask your son if he wants to go , if he does this could mean even if you go to court to try and stop it , he proberbly will be allowed to go . If he does not want to go I think you can apply for a residency order then your son can live with you. She is being very sneaky in not telling you. At 16 he should know his own mind and the court will listen to his requests
Thanks ak47
speaking to my son is an issue because i dont think he is even aware at what she is up to. top it all of my eldest lives with me 18yrs and theres no mention in taking him to australia and hes not aware whats going on. so just think hows he going to feel. dont get me wrong i want both boys stay with me. she not aware that i know shes planning to go. i found out via email.
Hi there and welcome 🙂
I think this needs to be brought into the open as the sooner it can be discussed the better. If you are worried about your sons reaction then perhaps you could write to your ex, letting her know that you know what she is planning and asking for clarification. Suggest that you meet to discuss it perhaps, and let her know in no uncertain terms that the boys are old enough to be party to these discussions, and ask her to bear in mind the effect of this subtefuge on your oldest son.
If it were me then I would want to discuss it with both my sons straight away, as I always think its better to bring family issues into the family forum...As a single parent confronted with a problem, I used to call family meetings and we would decide a course of action between us. We are and always have been a very, very close unit. However I appreciate that each families dynamics are different, and you will know how best to proceed.
Good luck with everything 🙂
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