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Hi all,
So back at family court after a few hearings and a very hard to deal with ex partner.
Should be getting a long term Child Arrangements Order to have the children for weekends etc (I hope) currently seeing them 1 day a week.
Do I need to have joint residency in the order? Would this then be better are we are both parents who the children live with etc?
It appears joint residency is best? Or will this be automatic in the order? I just feel school etc only listen to the 'resident parent', or does joint residency need to be 50:50?
Hi all,
So back at family court after a few hearings and a very hard to deal with ex partner.
Should be getting a long term Child Arrangements Order to have the children for weekends etc (I hope) currently seeing them 1 day a week.
Do I need to have joint residency in the order? Would this then be better are we are both parents who the children live with etc?
It's not a given to get shared care written into an order, it's usually written in favour of one parent that the child lives with (usually the mother). In my opinion it is better to have a shared care arrangement written in as the child/children live with both parents, there would be nothing wrong with asking for this, although ideally it should have formed part of your initial request to the court when you made the application.
It appears joint residency is best? Or will this be automatic in the order? I just feel school etc only listen to the 'resident parent', or does joint residency need to be 50:50?
As said, it's not a given and won't be automatically included as part of the order, courts are coming round to the idea of shared care arrangements, but very slowly. However, it doesn't mean an equal split of the time that a child spends with each parent, the importance is in the equalising of the role of both parents and a need to work together and be flexible.