Hi,
I've been in a relationship of about 8 months, she is now pregnant and wants to keep it. She has 4 children already from two men, I liked her very much but never intended to have a child with her.
I'm rather lost because even if she keeps it, I doubt we'll stay together on the long term and it's painful to know that I won't be able to be a home daddy, stay with the girl and just start a family like I would have wanted to.
The fact that she's going ahead against my wish also hurts a lot.
It really seems like I'm being forced into it and in the worst way possible. Unplanned and with someone you didn't want this with.
I'm not sure what to expect and I'm overwhelmed by the situation, completely powerless too.
Any advice would be much appreciated!
Hi there
I'm afraid it's her body and her choice ultimately....to be blunt if you didn't want a child with her then it was your responsibility to take precautions, regardless of whether she told you she was using contraceptives or not.
Perhaps you should also talk to her about your feelings, are the other fathers around for her other children?
I'm not surprised you feel overwhelmed, bringing a child into the world is a very big deal. There isn't a lot you can do during the pregnancy, I guess you have some thinking to do as to whether you stay around to support her, or whether you cut your ties now. It might help if you can speak to your family or a close friend, someone that you can trust.
Best of luck
Hi There,
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I think in the way this has happened It's normal to feel how you do, if you weren't expectinng it and didn't really want it too happen then I can fully understand, however as Mojo has said it's her body and you can't force her to do anything about it unless she agrees which it doesn't sound as though she will.
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GTTS