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[Solved] My girlfriend is 14 weeks pregnant and is now saying she has broken up with me

 
luke10
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I was so happy to be told I was going to be a Dad by my girlfriend even though we hadn't been together that long. She blows hot and cold and can be very nasty with her words.. This weekend she wanted to give us another try, we had a great weekend but again she has told me she is moving on!
She has in the past told me that my bump is not going to have my surname and this really cuts into me.

I really wanted to start a beautiful little family but she is taking it all away from me, all the joy I should be feeling right now is being destroyed and I feel helpless and most of the time I feel like ending it all.

What can I do in preparation for any legal situations that arise? I want to be a good dad and be there 100% for my child. Can she stop me from being a daddy? How do I get to see scans? Im feeling so alone with it all.

Please help me:dry:

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Topic starter Posted : 04/11/2019 6:54 pm
Ferfer
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Hi Luke

Sorry to hear your troubles. I assume you are not married at the moment then? Being married does allow you parental responsibility and also if you are named on the birth certificate. I am not sure what the processes are in terms of gaining contact if you are not married or on the birth certificate.

Explain that no matter what happens between you and the ex, you want to be involved with the childs up bringing. Hopefully she will allow contact regardless of your relationship.

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Posted : 04/11/2019 8:52 pm
Yoda
 Yoda
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Legally, there's nothing you can do or be involved with, until the child arrives. That is of course unless the mother changes her mind and agrees.

Pregnancy hormones can do funny things. Give her some space and then ask to talk sensibly at a later date?

You could suggest Relate or possibly mediation if you think having a 3rd party involved might help.

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Posted : 04/11/2019 9:10 pm
luke10
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Yes... so further on down the line now, she told me that she missed me and we got back together, she still was still very argumentative but I just put up with it as my mum said it could just be hormones.
The birth of our daughter was amazing and we and her family talked about us getting our own place, everything looked great, normal.
My daughter is now coming up for 4 weeks old. I have done all the night bottles for her to feed our daughter and have done everything I possibly can as I totally love my daughter.
so,, my girlfriend wakes up one morning and tells me Im leaving..... because of lockdown my name is not yet on the birth certificate and I am so scared she will go without me and she's saying I can't see my daughter without being in a contact centre!!! Im heartbroken, totally heartbroken and just want to be there for my daughter

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Topic starter Posted : 06/06/2020 9:04 pm
luke10
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Can she stop me from seeing my baby? Iv said to her to think how she would feel if it was the other way round and how heartbroken she would feel but she really doesn't care.

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Topic starter Posted : 06/06/2020 9:05 pm
Bill337
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hi

yes, unfortunately, without a court order she can stop you seeing your child and do what she likes, move somewhere else etc.

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Posted : 07/06/2020 12:20 am
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