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Hi I'm hoping that I can get some help and advice regarding my stepdaughter and her 18-year-old boyfriend. So before I go into this I will give you some background. I'm currently going through a divorce which is getting nasty as there are solicitors involved now and my ex is becoming more and more unreasonable I am unable to talk to her about this matter as the situation between us has completely broken down. The relationship I have my stepdaughter is not very good and we are only just now starting to form a relationship, so our relationship is very fragile at the moment. Two weeks ago the last time I saw my stepdaughter and we were talking , she told me that she is having counselling regarding the breakdown of my marriage to her mother my relationship with her and a number of other issues that she has. She also told me she has a new boyfriend and that he is 18 years old I am very concerned about this as she's only child and he is a an 18 which makes him in the eyes of the law and adults. I believe my daughter to be in a very vulnerable position at the moment. Her mother is a loving this relationship to continue but I have reservations about it I have no parental authority which is one of the things that my solicitor is trying to get me. So I need some advice as regards to how to handle this situation if I tell her she's not to see him it could destroy what little relationship we have. If I do nothing but I don't think that makes me responsible adult as I don't think her mother is being responsible at all and it makes me wonder if she fit to be looking after the children as I have a son with her and at the moment he is living with her. So any help that can be given be great thanks.
It's a hard one to comment on. I can understand your concern, especially as you feel she is vulnerable right now. I would think about the importance of your relationship right now. Her relationship with the 18 yr old, although concerning, might not be the most important thing to focus on. I would encourage you to get good time her, where you have fun, ask questions about her relationship & share concerns you have. Maybe suggest the 3 of you go out so you can meet him or they could come over to see you, so you know what the guy is like & can imput her constructively. Do you think she's listen to your advice?
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