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Hey!
Just looking for advice...
my ex-girlf is denying me access to see my son (he will be 3yrs next month) because i won't tell my parents about my son. I am originally from India and have tried many times to see my son by arranging times with her and with a lawyer but she always blocks access!
She told me in 2010 that i could see my son, so i went to her house every week to spent a few hours with my son, on the 4th week of contact she told me to meet me at her mums house (who lives across the road from me), we walked along the road a bit outside as she was going to Post Office, she then proceeded to shout abuse at me and slapped me in the face, upon doing so the pushchair carrying my child fell over, she then text my new girlf that i had attacked her. The ex then said my son isn't really my child and i'll never see him again!
I had to go to India for 2 yrs due to visa but i have came back this year in Feb, i have completed a dna test which resulted in the child being mine.
i have since married the new girlf and she is very supportive of me having a relationship with my son, my ex contacted me as soon as i came back to say i need to pay for my son, i have had contact with the csa and payment is being sorted! me & my ex has had contact via facebook and she has so far been compliant but today we had a meeting and she just gave me a tirade of abuse and said ill never see my son as i havent told my parents back in india and her lawyer agrees to thhis but all my friends here say that her lawyer shouldnt agree to that as it is not a relevent reason... is this true??
Hi, is this what she is saying the lawyer said or have you had a letter stating this. I cant imagen a lawyer saying this and no way would it be true. You are an adult and do not have to tell your parents. Mind you why have you not told them, ? Is the mother of your child from India ?
Its good your wife is supportive. I think as such a lot of time has passed since contact the child will need to be introduced to you via a contact centre. Was the meeting with a trained mediator or just yourselfs. I think you should try mediation through a trained mediator and if this fails you could take her to court for contact, but like I said I expect you will only get it through a contact centre or at the ex house while you build up a relationship with your son
Hi,
No the mother of the child is from here in UK as is my wife. I first came to the UK in 2006 and met the ex in 2008. I haven't told my parents as 1) they will want to see my son and i cannot take him to India as she will never allow this 2) my parents cannot come to UK due to health problems my mum has which prevents her from flying 3) she has an abusive character and violent past, she was also violent to me also, and i have never raised my hand nor will I in future to a woman, if she is abusive to me then what will stop her being abusive to my parents, she was taken into care when she was 14yrs old as she was violent to her own mum....
anyways she told me her lawyer said i won't see my son until i tell my parents, i have not had this in writing.
I am going to make an appointment with a family lawyer who deals with family court tomorrow.
I have already suggested a Mediation Centre for contact to see my son for a few hours at a time so he can get to know me but she has said she does not want our son to be surrounded by strangers and i do not want to face her anymore.
Every suggestion i make she throws it back with a negative response!
I knew she was lying what her lawyer 'said' but i was just needed advice from people who know more info than me
thanks 🙂
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