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Me and my partner have separated, we Have a little boy and are expecting another in the next few months.
She ended the relationship because she thought I was being unfaithful and didn't like my working hours as I am a bartender, we have agreed some contact but I am not happy with it, 4 hours 2 days a week and she is refusing to let him stay over with me yet she wants me to stay over in the house she kicked me out of to look after my son so she can have a lie in.
I want more contact with my son and want him to be aloud to stay over with me at least once a week, can anybody advise me on the best course of action?
Hi Paul and welcome 🙂
Its usual when agreement cant be reached over things like contact to go for mediation www.nfm.org.uk.
Its always best to try and keep things amicable for everyones sake, and if it can be sorted out using mediation then its always better than applying to the court for defined contact.
You could also consider Relate www.relate.org.uk as they are experienced in helping families when a relationship has broken down.
Pregnant women are notoriously emotional/hormonal, especially when newly pregnant.... she may calm down, lets hope so! 🙂
As far as wanting you to stay at hers to childmind whilst she has a lie in... just stick to your guns, but let her know that the offer of having him at your own place stands whenever she needs a break.
Hi There,
I agree with NJ, This could be down to hormones, If staying together is what you want then relate could be a good move, Also keep close to her and show her that you care and want to be there for her.
Darren
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