[Solved] Advice needed

Hi There,

This is tough as she is too young to be able to talk too about things.

Do you spend time with her doing fun things as well as the routine? i'm sure you do but just wondered if it was seen by your daughter as that when you spend time with her it is about the mundane things in life and not as fun.

The other option is to try and make getting ready fun, find a way to make it into a game and just keep calm, your daughter will probably pick up on you being upset and this would un nerve her also.

No matter how difficult you have to keep very smiley and happy so she feels more relaxed with you.

Darren

Thanks Darren,

I try my best to make time to have some fun with her, but working full time makes it hard, since she's usually on wind down when I get in from work. Weekends seem to be taken up with trips to Grandma and Granda, so they have her attention. I suppose I just need to find at least a couple of hours of quality me and her time to try and have some fun.

I'd never thought of making the mundane things into a game. I'll certainly give it try! Anything is worth a go.

I inherited my lack of patience and short fuse from my Mam, and I hate when I lose my temper over something so trivial in the grand scheme of things. Hopefully if we can get some good playtime, there'll be less need for me to lose my temper.

Cheers.

Hi there and welcome 🙂

Its hard work being a parent! Darren has given some good advice...

You could get some bath paints, my grandson who is 18months old has a bubble making toy which attaches to the side of the bath and he absolutely loves it! Children love sticker books too and making things. You can buy craft boxes full of things like glitter and coloured paper, brightly coloured feathers etc and they are quite inexpensive but children get hours of fun just glueing the stuff to paper! Bit messy but hey...do it before bathtime!

Children pick up on anxiety and she is probably picking up on yours and reacting to it, so its best to try and remain calm, if you feel you're losing your temper just leave the room for a minute. All children throw tantrums and they can be pretty unsettling to witness, you are not alone! Talking about it and looking for solutions shows what a thoughtful and caring Dad you are, so dont be so hard on yourself!

Good luck 🙂

Another thing to try is to talk to your wife and get a set plan, make sure you are both working in the same direction,

If your daughter is looking for mum and mum comes in and takes over she will continue to look for mum, make sure your wife backs you up, maybe by being in the same room but telling your daughter, NO daddy is doing this not Mummy, then over time mummy popsn her head around the corner to say the same.

If your daugher sees your wife backing you then she is less lickely to look for her.

Darren

Hi Nanny and Darren,

A really big thanks for your tips. It's just nice to be able to unburden some of this stuff, since most of my close mates aren't Dads, so while they're a good bunch and a sympathetic ear, there isn't much advice forthcoming.

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If your daughter is looking for mum and mum comes in and takes over she will continue to look for mum, make sure your wife backs you up, maybe by being in the same room but telling your daughter, NO daddy is doing this not Mummy, then over time mummy popsn her head around the corner to say the same.

If your daugher sees your wife backing you then she is less lickely to look for her.

This is some brilliant advice Darren. BigLad the thing to remember is any small change to you and your wifes behaviour will have a gradual effect on your daughter so don't expect miracles overnight. It will take a while for it to have an effect. So don't get disheartened and give up.

A really big thanks for your tips. It's just nice to be able to unburden some of this stuff, since most of my close mates aren't Dads

This is what we are here for.

Gooner

I know it was only one night guys, but I have to say that last night was the most fun I've had with the little 'un in months. 😆

I had no idea that such simple things could be so effective. Roll on bath time tonight, I've promised she can play 'splash Daddy'!

Long may this continue, although I'd be mad to say that we'd cracked it yet.

Thats great news BigLad! :cheer:

...Dare I say, its the simple things in life that make us happy!

Give my 18mth grandson some plastic beakers and spoons and he plays with them for ages....I used to give my daughter a duster when she was toddling about and she would wander around dusting everything, happy as larry! 😆

Well done you, and as you're more relaxed, so will she be!