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hi fellow fathers,
firstly, happy christmas,
now on to the main part.
It's been a while since I have posted anything so my apologies.
My 10 year old son has adhd, and constantly lies or makes up stories about people, or us even.
since my last posting, My wife have split up and got back together again to make things work, not just for us, but for our kids sakes too.
L has been very awful to deal with since we split up.
after I came back to the family home, he made up a story to his friends saying he witnessed a boy crossing a "barely used" railway track and saw him struck by a train, this resulting in the majority of county durham's police force and their helicopter out of action for several hours while they search for the child.
since that day, he lies about everything, accuses me of beating him or hurting him when all I do is look at him for giving us attitude! it has really got me down and I just feel so fed up of him, I can't stand to be around him at the moment, it's actually got to a point where I am now depressed because of my son's actions and attitude, not just toward me, but toward the rest of the family too. he beats his brother about every morning when he gets up, we have to get up and intervene and it's awful hearing his younger sibling crying asking him to stop.
we have had help from social services, but after they betrayed our trust earlier this year, we won't even let them on the property anymore.
I just don't know what to do and I feel like I just want to dissapear for christmas!
steve
Steve
I just replied to your other post and gave you the details for Contact A Family. Call them and read the article on being married with an ADHD child that I also linked to my other reply.
Mate. Sounds tough and you guys need to get some support. If Social services are a no go then look on line for local support groups ( most of them will be charities) that should support you. In fact just did a quick Google and found this Darlington, ADHD Support Group, Mulberry Centre, Darlington Memorial Hospital
Hope that helps.
Wishing you and all the family a Merry Christmas buddy and a New Year full of support and help.
Hi
Janssen-Cilag produce a couple of booklets:
ADHD - A guide for parents (reference CON/08-0153-614697)
ADHD - A compact guide for Parents (reference CON/06-0026-63115)
I would say it's definitely worth geting hold of these.
There are some useful websites in the booklets -
Young Minds:
http://www.youngminds.org.uk
http://www.youngminds.org.uk/adhd/Young ... eaflet.pdf
http://www.youngminds.org.uk/adhd/index.php
Royal College of Psychiatrists:
http://rcpsych.ac.uk/info/mhgu/pdfs/Sheet5.pdf
The Attention Deficit Disorder Information and Support Service (ADDISS)
http://www.addiss.co.uk
The Mental Health Foundation:
http://www.mentalhealth.org.uk
http://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/htlm/con ... t.adhd.pdf
National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence:
http://www.nice.org.uk
Clinical guideline: CG72 Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder
Hope this all helps
Funnily enough, funnily enough, I am sat in the mulberry centre now, the above mentioned adhd group no longer exists. I am in touch with contact a family and thanks for all the links guys, feeling happier today, happy christmas
sorry for the quick reply guys, I was sat in on their christmas party earlier.
the adhd group at the mulberry centre departed and went to sedgefield a few years ago, since then, there has been no adhd group, however the staff offer support for us as best they can.
The staff and doctors there are fantastic. however, they are looking at making a new group up for parents who have kids with adhd and similar problems.
I get a regular contact a family email and newsletter so that's all good too.
although we don't officially have a support work and have never been given one either, we can get good advice from the mulberry centre, but that's all it is, advice.
steve
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