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me and my ex split 8 months ago, at first we got on but things have gone downhill. we have both done and said stuff including some threats. she has now been to solicitor and painted a really horrible pic of me who advised supervised visits or contact centre, we met up and agreed not to do it that way and me to see kids twice a week. but since then we have been arguing and in 1week she threatened to stop contact 5 times. its all come to a head today when she accused me of splitting her and latest boyfriend up. im sat here wondering wether i should stop all contact now n ask solicitor to arrange contact centre. my question is what are contact centres like and would it put the kids off seeing me and how often would i get to see my kids
My daughter has been going to the local contact centre for contact with her mother for the last 5 years and it's a really nice place - generally, people who work there are enthusiastic and committed, so it's a nice atmosphere. The best think I can advise is to have a word with them and go an visit. I would suggest that, even though they will probably have lots of toys and activities, it's worth taking things with you so you can do things they really enjoy, rather than just whatever is available.
Check also how often they run - my local is available twice per month, for 4 hours each time, but I would imagine that that varies. There may be other options available also which would allow you more contact than this.
Whatever you do, don't stop contact, aside the fact that you and your kids will miss out, it may also give your ex extra weight to any argument she may make in trying to reduce the amount of contact you have.
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