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Hi everybody first post so pleased to meet you all.
I split with my partner last year and we had been getting along fine with her telling me when the kids needed something and I would get it as well as paying for everything if we had a day out together.
I knew she had been seeing someone since about Christmas but didnt really know anything about him until a couple of weeks ago when I ran into them at the shops.
He is basically everything Im not or dont have-earns 50k a year,has his own big house and flash car,doesnt smoke and is a bit of a fitness freak.
This however is not the issue as I knew that we wouldnt be single forever-when I saw them at first I didnt realise it was her and thought they were father and daughter as she is early thirties but looks 25 and he is 45 and looks 50 plus.
I then found out they met online and having checked his Facebook page(I know stalker alert) because I wanted to know everything I could find out about someone who may be spending time with my kids he mentions working his way through "internet randoms" for the last couple of years.
I dont want a dirty old man who has spent the last few years trawling the internet looking for women half his age and then bragging about it on Facebook spending time within a mile of my kids.(And Im fully aware she had to be on there to be found)
Anyway I told her as much last week and this leads us to my question-Do the CSA take into account outgoings etc so that you have a living wage left or is it you pay x amount even if it leaves you worried to put the heating on or having the kids thinking you're a loser because you cant take them anywhere when they are at mine.
I see my kids every weekend and they enjoy it but I dont want it turning into a chore for them because its boring or cold/damp etc at dads.
If I was to pay as much as the CSA calculator reckons my outgoings would be over £800 out of a wage of just under £1000 which could mean me not eating the week before payday and just wondered if there is a minimum they have to leave you with in order to live.
Im doing well and going places in my job and dont want to give it up but with the travelling Im out for 60 hours a week and it would just feel pointless for £100odd quid at the end of the month and I would probably be better off not working.
Your CSA payments are based on what you earn not what you're outgoings are. Are you currently making CSA payments to your ex or is this also based on what you owe since you split up?
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