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Dear all,
my second post of the evening! This time my question is relating to access during school holidays. For the last 2 years my soon to be ex wife and I have split access to the kids, via a separation agreement, around 55% to me, 45% to her during school holidays - (I'm a school teacher and so obviously am lucky to be able to have this time with them). The ex has recently qualified as a teacher too and now is going to court to ask that my access is reduced to one night per week throughout the school holidays, except for a solitary week at some point in the summer. In other words I'd go from seeing them approximately 28-29 days out of 56 to around 14 days out of 56.
The weekends are now to be changed, at least she wants them to be, so that instead of me seeing the kids Friday after school til saturday night one week, then saturday morning to Sunday evening the next week, I would still see them friday after school til saturday night one week but then only saturday night til sunday evening - a further reduction in my time with the kids - theyd be asleep in bed most of the time I had them at a weekend! Considering the arrangement has stood for 2 years, with me even having the kids on several nights as one offs during the school week, is it likely that my contact will be reduced, down purely to it now suiting her 'new life, new career'?
regards
Douglas
PS she has made vexatious claims via lawyers letter that she is worried about their hygiene if I have them for any extended period?! Bananas!
Hi There,
I judge would look at your case independantly of others, so there is no norm, but it is likely that as you have had an arrangement in place for 2 years and it has worked that they will look upon that as a good solution, they may alter it slightly to allow for the changes in your soon to be ex's work commitments as she now has more time in the holidays.
Darren
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