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We have been separated for 5 weeks and my wife wants to move in with her new guy of three weeks? and take our fourteen year old daughter with her. I know nothing about him and she met him online. I am concerned for my daughter and need to know what I can do to stop this. any ideas?
Hi there,
I'm not too sure what you can do unafraid, I know it's very quick for your daughter to meet let alone move in with another guy but without good reason I'm not sure you could stop it.
How does your daughter feel about it?
Darren
Not had a chance to discuss it as she is with the ex at her aunties.
Very little communication with the ex on her part only that it is up to the daughter to decide and I cannot talk with her about it.
Daughter has not even met him yet.
He could be dodgy for all I know.
Is there any interim action I can take?
I'm not sure if there would be anything you could do without reason, I know this isn't great and we would all agree with your views I just think without good reason you could be seen as slinging mud if you go airing your concerns.
I think you need to talk as best you can to your ex and explain your concerns for your daughter, and that you feel everything is very quick I'm not sure what else you can would be able to do.
Darren
she's unwilling to talk, so i guess i'll have to keep calm and just be there for my daughter and give her my support, although I feel I'm responsible if it goes badly.
You won't be responsible at all, as you say just be there for her and be her constant, she may have, it's going on at the moment you being there for her will help her lots, try not to question her about her mums new chap as she may recent you for it.
Hi
Is there a chance that you daughter wants to come and live with you - as the split has only recently happened, I would say that your ex isn't really established as the parent with care. If your daughter came to live with you, you could immediately file an application for residency and with your daughter's age, I think it would be extremely unlikely to go agains you, especially as your ex seems to be putting herself way before your daughter.
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