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What's your approach, and why?
If you deceibe them into believing that FC is real then why should they believe you about anything else? Kids can enjoy FC as a 'pretend' game.
I hate lying, I really enjoy pretending and having fun with my kids - so try and get a balance...
Although that balance invovles, asking my daugther to not tell her friends at school that FC is no real..
Although that balance invovles, asking my daugther to not tell her friends at school that FC is no real..
It's not the children I'm worried about ...
Yes - it is a good idea if they don't tell their friends that FC is fake. I had a friend who got into real trouble with a lot of other parents when his daughter started putting all her friends right about FC.
Of course Father Christmas is real. You can't go anywhere at Christmas time without seeing him! So there's no need to lie about his reality, just be honest about his story. (And that includes Cocacola being responsible for his red suit!)
I have always played Father Christmas as a game with my kids, who know he's someone dressed up, but we still pretend he's the magical person he's supposed to be - and that imncludes pretending to believe when talking to their freinds.
Oh, and I still have to deliver presents to their stockings when they are asleep (and sometimes I dress up too) even though they have 'grown up'.
Christmas is a bigger story than just Santa, but i dont think you should purposefully burst the bubble - its a nice thing to believe in. Let 'em enjoy it.... tell em he's real
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Oh, and I still have to deliver presents to their stockings when they are asleep (and sometimes I dress up too) even though they have 'grown up'.
I particularly encourage the bit where the kids have to put a glass of port by the fireplace for Santa along with a carrot and some water for Rudolph. The reindeer often turns out to have not been very hungry but somehow the port has always gone by morning 😉
One year I even helped the kids set up the digital camera on some kind of timer facing the fireplace before they went to bed. Amazingly, it worked and in the morning there was a photo of the back of a man's head wearing a red hat. I think he was even caught drinking the port...
We tell our kids that he's not real - but that pretending is fun and they should join in the fun and not upset their friends who are lied to by their parents!! (OK said that last bit to be antaganistic!) 😈
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