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I divorced the mother of my 2 children now 14 boy and 17 years old girl in October 2007, admitedly after having an affair with a work colleague, so she could be forgiven for being angry with me then, although there are 2 sides to everything and I met my soul mate as a result of seeking help from her temper and controlling nature as a wife and parent! I had said on many occassions that when the children were older I would leave and meeting someone else sped that up.
I have subsequently re-married - yes the lady I had the affair with! Who is a wonderful supportive partner and seeks to be a good parent to her own children 11 and 16 and mine, however my former wife dictates who when and where I can see my children - usually insisting that this is in the ex-marital home only and she continues to contact me on a daily basis sometimes hourly in regards to trivial things in her own life. Everything from how to plumb in a washing machine to arguments in her work.
I know that from the content of texts and calls that she needs some support, a friend! but I am not in that place anymore. She probably is in need of some kind of counselling - any advice on how I go about helping her get it for all our sakes! Her constant disturbance and contact does become wearing.
Thanking you for any thoughts in advance
Dave
Hi Dave and welcome
First, I agree with you about the affair - quite often (not always), an affair is the symptom of a relationship that has gone wrong, not the cause of it, and that applies to both sides.
With regard to your ex texting you constantly, can I ask what your response is when you receive a text?
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