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hi guys
i'm new to the forum.
i'm a dad to a wonderful little boy, am in my late 20's and i'm so fed up and depressed sometimes i just want to run away.
even worse is i'm to afraid to even write about it incase she ever stumbles or comes across this post because then at the least i'd have her in constant moods with me at worst she'd show me the door, i just feel so unwanted, unloved and worthless the only real thing that keeps me going is my little boy.
sorry guys i wanted to write it all out but i'm just too scared incase.
really sorry to read your post mate.
no one at all is worthless and you should try not to think such things. obviously to your son you mean the world.
i hope you can find the right support to help you through this difficult time. do you have any support from any family or friends?
take it easy, jc
nope there's no support from anywhere, i have no friends any more, i tried to keep in touch with some through facebook etc but after a short while i started getting little comments etc from her about it so i just deleted everyone from my lists, i'm literally alone as it were apart from my little boy .
really sorry. i hope you could think about getting some support for how you are feeling from somewhere.
all the best
Hi,
I'm sorry you are having a tough time. It must be hard for you.
Have you considered confiding in your partner, she may have more understanding of your current state of mind. Failing that there is help out there for depression but unfortunately the help doesn't come to you. You have to seek it yourself. First stop usually the GP. If you don't want to go down this route there are self help methods to help you feel more positive about life. It's great you're positive and happy about your son, you can focus on what happens in your life for him!
Have you tried any dad and kid play groups, or other activities with your son where you'll get to meet other parents?
Just by admitting your feelings and writing them down is a great start as you are admitting it to yourself. There's only one way to go from here and that's up!
Be strong, be positive and things will look up for you!
it's really worth registering at your local children's centre. sometimes they offer counselling and maybe your son could access the creche there. it's also a great way to meet other parents. these centres are supposed to be reaching out more to dads, so sometimes they have dad only sessions. it depends on where you live i think.
good luck!
hi j_c,
sorry for being dim. What do you mean by childrens centres?
Do they have a website that I could look at?
I assume that would help me look up my local area to see what is close to me.
thanks
/orange
they might be called children and family centres depending on where you live. they are for families with children under 5 and they may also have a nursery attached. they run a range of activities for children where parents stay too and sometimes a creche for older children so parents can attend training etc.
the best way to find out is to search for them in your local council website. i'm in london so we have lots of them, there should be one near you though!
cheers
Hi j_C
that really helped, I ended up working out they are called "sure start children's centres"
After a bit of searching I found that the directgov site has a uk wide search, here's a link incase it helps others
Chidren's Centres Finder
/regards and thanks
MrOrange
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